When things aren’t going quite the way you’d like them to, it’s often the result of not asking yourself the right questions. Some questions are hard to answer because you’re afraid you won’t get the answer you want, others because you really don’t want to know the answer.
Want to see changes in your life? be brave and answer the following questions
What/whom did I make better today?
Ending each day by asking yourself what or whom you made better is a great way to keep yourself grounded and focused on what really matters.
Am I being true to my values?
Do you ever get that feeling that something is a little off in your life? This often happens when little behaviors creep up on you that violate your values. If spending quality time with your family is one of your primary values, but you keep working every weekend, there’s a conflict. If you want that little voice to go away, you’re going to have to do something about it.
If I achieved all of my goals, how would I feel? What can I do to feel that way as I work to achieve them?
The ability to delay gratification in pursuit of your goals is one of the most fundamental prerequisites for success, but delaying gratification doesn’t have to mean being miserable until you cross that finish line. You can achieve more—and have fun doing it!
In what areas of my life am I settling?
When you settle, you accept less than you’re capable of. Sometimes we settle in dead-end jobs. If you don’t ask yourself where and why you’re settling, it’s hard to stop it.
What do I want my life to be like in five years?
Five years is the perfect timeframe: It’s not so far in the future that you can’t imagine yourself there, but it’s not so close that you can’t do anything about it.
What would I do if I wasn’t scared?
From a survival perspective, fear has its purpose. It’s what keeps us from any of the million things that could get us hurt or killed. But fear has a tendency to get carried away. Instead of keeping you safe, it keeps you from improving your life and living your dreams.
Asking the hard questions can be extremely uncomfortable. But we don’t learn and grow by sticking with what’s comfortable.