IN WHAT SITUATION DO YOU WORRY ABOUT WHAT OTHERS ARE THINKING?
When you post something on Facebook?
How you run your business?
With your parenting?
Your body image?
Anything and Everything all the time?
WHEN WE WORRY ABOUT WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK, WE’RE GUESSING. THERE’S NO WAY WE COULD EVER KNOW. NO MATTER HOW MUCH WE THINK WE DO, WE DON’T!
Because you don’t know what triggers anybody. What past experiences are responsible for making them think the way they think.
You’ve done this before where you’re wondering, “Are they from the right party or the left party?” You don’t care, but you’re like, “I need to process this…Wonder whats their background? Do they live here? Do they always…”
We want to know more information because our brain hates the unknown. It likes very specific things so that we can process. It’s not to judge. I mean, well, maybe that’s for some people. But, for most of us, the reason why we want to know more is about having information to process.
NOW, WHAT I’M ABOUT TO TELL YOU IS GOING TO HURT A LITTLE BIT, BUT IT’S ONLY BECAUSE I LOVE YOU. THE REASON WHY WE WORRY ABOUT WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK IS BECAUSE WE DON’T HAVE SOMETHING ELSE TO WORRY ABOUT…LET THAT SINK IN FOR A SECOND.
People who are very busy with their own lives and dreams worry very little about what other people think.
THE REASON WHY WE DO THAT – AND THIS IS GOING TO HURT A LITTLE BIT, TOO – IS WE’RE UNDERDEVELOPED. THIS IS JUST THE TRUTH. AN UNDERDEVELOPED INDIVIDUAL WILL WORRY ABOUT WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK BECAUSE IT’S WHERE THEY GO FOR INSTANT GRATIFICATION.
We often say that we worry about what others think because we’re people pleasers, right? But I don’t want you to confuse people pleasing with kindness. People pleasers are dream chasers. You’re never going to accomplish that dream. It’s an underdeveloped way of being – because you’re so worried about pleasing other people simply because it’s instant gratification.
There’s nothing you can do to change what other people think. So, when you start focusing on doing that impossible task, guess what creeps in? Self-doubt. And when we have self-doubt, we get weak.
Self-doubt is weakness. Meaning, boundaries come down. And then we let other people’s agendas become our focus.
You can’t please everyone. You have to allow people not to like you. You have to allow people to be upset with you.
At the end of the day, it’s not about stopping to care about what people think. Rather, it’s about being free from caring about something you simply cannot know. That something – worry – robs you of your own dreams and instill fears in you.
And who has time for that?